Love; an intense feeling of affection…also known as fondness, endearment and warmth. A feeling that is embedded in our emotions and a feeling we surely cannot avoid, no matter how hard we try.
Ever since I was a little girl, I dreamed about finding the one guy who will sweep me off my feet, bluebirds soaring swiftly around me as they sang a soft tune, all for me to inevitably go off into the distance with my one true love. As I entered my teenage years I still carried the same belief. I am not kidding you, a hopeless romantic mentality courses through my veins and is embedded in my genes. Just like your typical teenage girl, I faced numerous so-called heartbreaks that resulted in me almost…ALMOST believing I would never find my “one and only”.
But…there were two people who never let me forget that love was out there and to never let go of the romantic spark I carried in my soul. A couple that grew with me, inspired me, and demonstrated to me what love was truly about. I’m not talking about the couple in the latest Nicholas Sparks movie, I’m talking about my parents: Jay and Sarah (AKA mom and dad). Not a day went by that I never heard them say “I love you” or give each other random kisses throughout the day. I grew up watching my dad randomly surprise my mom with a bouquet of flowers and taking care of her through the hardest of times. I watched my mom become his number one cheerleader, looking up to him as her equal partner and watched as they both treated each other with the utmost respect.
November 2, 1985: Wedding Day
In honor of Valentine’s Day, I am choosing to shine a spotlight on their love and share their whimsical knowledge. Below are raw, and honest questions on how their internal passion for one another has stayed strong through all these years.
E: Hey Mom and Dad, for those who don’t know how you guys met, give us a quick behind-the-scenes story.
S: We met when I (Mom), went into Dad’s dealership to look at a car he had for sale…..the catch is, I was already married. The marriage was failing (too young, only 20) and about three months later, I ended up with the vehicle. And eventually my true love.
J: I thought she was beautiful…I couldn’t get her off of my mind.
E: Dad, how did you know that mom was…as cliche as it sounds…”the one”?
J: I felt it in my heart……I knew she was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Love at first sight.
E: Okay, how long have you guys been married?
J: Almost 33 years.
E: Wow! This leads me to my next question… there’s a lot of concern in relationships that they will hit the forbidden “dull stage”, how have you guys kept the love alive?
S: Both of us remember very clearly when we fell in love, and still get goosebumps thinking about it. Talking about that moment takes you back and helps to keep things fresh. Shared experiences and memories are priceless. We both fall in love with each other, over and over again, regularly.
E: How do you both manage to get through rough times in the relationship? In other words, what is your go-to method to keeping the relationship stable?
S & J: The current of marriage ebbs and flows, like any relationship. Commitment and respect are essential, communication is a must. It’s important to really listen to each other. Staying on the same page isn’t easy, so often, you have to “refresh” the page. You may not always like each other, but making each other laugh goes a long way to help smooth over rough spots
E: What would be your biggest tip to us 20-somethings in relationships now or in the future?
S: Treat your partner the way you want to be treated. Express gratitude for even the smallest things.
Go- to romantic song:
The First Time Ever I Saw Your Face…..by Roberta Flack.
Favorite thing to do together:
Talk…on the beach, in the car, wherever.
“A Word a Day” (one phrase you both don’t go a day without saying):
Thank you and I love you!
From your daughter: Thank you Mom and Dad for teaching me the art of passion and adoration for another human being. That once naive, hopeless romantic little girl who only dreamt of finding the one has actually found her “one and only” prince charming, perhaps proving that love doesn’t have to be so hopeless after all.
Photo Credits: Church of Christ